Do you roll your eyes every time someone tells you to practice selfcare? With so many items on your already full to-do list already, how do you find time for self care too. There’s barely enough time for a wee some days!
I’ve been thinking a lot about self care recently. About what it really is and how to include it in my days. Much as I’d love to say its all facials and bubble baths, there’s much more fundamental stuff that needs to be in place first. There’s a popular analogy that I like, it helps me prioritise and organise my time – The Rocks, Pebbles and Sand in a Jar story.
A professor was giving a lecture. In front of him he had a big glass jar. He filled up the jar with rocks, when they reached the top of the jar he held it up and asked his students if the jar was full. They all agreed, there was no more room to put the rocks in, it was full.
He then poured some in small pebbles which filled the space around the rocks. “Is the jar full now?” he asked. The students all agreed that the jar was now completely full.
The professor then poured in sand filling the space between the pebbles and the rocks. Again his class agreed that the jar was full. “Are you sure?” he asked. Finally he picked up a bottle of water and tipped the water into the jar until it filled up all the remaining space.
The metaphor here is that we really need to get the important things prioritised because if we fill the jar with sand and water there will be no room for the rocks or pebbles. This holds true with the things you let into your life. If you spend all of your time on the small and insignificant things (netflix I’m looking at you!), you will run out of room for the things that are actually important.
The rocks are your must dos, the most important things. For me that includes good quality sleep and a nutrient rich diet. The pebbles are the things that matter but your could live without, reading perhaps or other hobbies. The sand represents the remaining stuff that fills up the rest of your time, this is really where netflix should be!
I’ve been learning some really excellent self care tools and look forward to sharing them with you in the near future (watch this space). The most important thing though is to first have a long good think and decide on your rocks, get your routine and scheduling organised to make sure they happen. Then you can think about getting your pebbles in place and if you have any ‘space’ left go right ahead and reach for the sand. Although, I think many of us have remembered the value of a little free time recently, so always remember the sand is optional.